One of Life’s Greatest Fallacies

In my life, as in many people’s, my in-basket is never empty. A story is created in my mind that there is so much “to do” that “I don’t have time” for the less important tasks. I have clients that I see along with a number of projects that I engage with when I’m not seeing clients. This morning I found that same story about not having time invading my mind, creating tension in my shoulders and making me irritable. My 2 year old son has an abudance of energy as many of them do and wanted to get outside with me for a little bit. In the face of the screaming voices inside my head telling me to “get to work” I decided to take him out. What happened?

As we walked outside and started to play I realized that I don’t have that much time before he grows from the stage of life. My mind imagined him as a teenager not wanting to spend time with me, but wanting to be alone or with his friends. It then jumped to him at 18 heading off to college (at least that’s my idea for him). I thought, “I’ll never be able to return to this time of life, but I’ll always be able to return to my work.”

In that moment I gave myself permission to be with him for 15 minutes and soak in this time of life. This is what I have termed present nostalgia, allowing the mind to recognize the sweet precious impermanence of this time while actually living it.

Is it really true that we don’t have the time to live as if it mattered or is this just a story in our minds?

You tell me.

Please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.

Reposted from Elisha Goldstein’s Mindfulness Blog on

3 Responses to “One of Life’s Greatest Fallacies”

  1. Cora says:

    Its all in our mind, what we live as if it mattered – its our choice. You are so right concerning our children, the moments we live with them will not come back! And they grow so fast..I observe often my 13 years old daughter, she can be so absorbed in her drawing or other tasks, she shows me how mindfulness works!

  2. Benita says:

    I so agree with you, Elisha. I have two boys aged 2 and 4, and they are so full of life and love, that they want to share with me. ME, for a short period of time, I´m (and their Dad) the one they want to be with the most. And I must admit, that I enjoy life the most, when I surrender to them and their play. Knowing deep within that this moment is all that counts. THIS moment has it all, it is the doorway to my own presence, and yes, my boys teach me that all the time. They know it already. So go out and play, bring joy to your life and see it blossom 🙂

  3. Annemaija says:

    This is so true! The critical question in my life has been “Where did the time go?”I asked this question when my sons moved to their own homes, when my parents died and on many other occasions.The foremost feeling associated with that question is quilt and remorse that I was not completely present in those times, fully experiencing them.But since I have been practicing mindfulness I have become a little bit more present in my owm life and less inclined to fill my waking hours with just things to do.